Awesome! I pray that he will be safe and learn a lot.
What this a decision he's been thinking about for a while or spur-of-the-moment?
He's been in JROTC at school for the last 4 years. When we started talking about what his goals were and what he thought he wanted to do long term, we had to face a couple of harsh realities:
1) As a result of me losing my job back in '08***, I no longer have the college fund that I had been working on for the kids.
2) After Kristin's unsuccessful foray into college life, I'm now stuck with paying off her student loans, and don't have the resources to take on more debt.
This meant that he had to find some way to fund his college outside of me. I discouraged him from taking on a crushing amount of student debt, based on what I had seen with Kristin; college is just too damned expensive for what it provides. Note that I'm not saying there isn't value in going to college; I'm saying that the cost is currently disproportionate to the benefits, except in certain cases.
Tony wants to get into astrophysics and computer programming. Astrophysics is a field for which a degree is a necessity. Unfortunately, reality is that if you want to compete in that field you really have to get an ivy league education, which a middle class American simply cannot afford.
That really only leaves the military and the G.I. bill.
The other portion of this decision is that it is my personal opinion that it is absolutely asinine to expect an 18-year-old to know what it is he wants to do with the rest of his life, to the tune of taking on anywhere from 80K to 500K in debt.
How many of us knew what we wanted to do for a career at 18? Hell, I was 27 before I figured out I really wanted to be an engineer!
The Army will give him the opportunity to get out in the world, try some new things, see different places, and get at least a sense of what's out there. He may end up changing his mind about what he wants to do. At the very least, he will come out with the G.I. bill and a different view of the world, and hopefully some personal connections that will help him later in life.
I have tried my level best to teach him to be open minded, to respect others, and to be rational. Despite that, I know that my own biases have crept in. It's time for him to get out in the world and experience it without my filter and choose his own path.
[Edit]***I lost my job in '10, not '08, sorry for the confusion.[edit]